Maybe that’s why I’m always so calm.
While trying to find yesterday's “Weird Fact of the Day” (25% of women have cried after a bad haircut, if you're curious) I came across another interesting statistic. A new survey shows that people who compulsively check their phones for texts or messages or notifications suffer anxiety or depression at a rate up to 60% higher than people who don’t.
Let that sink in. Sixty percent higher.
I actually know a couple of people like that; people who will look at their phone every two minutes and then seem disappointed when there’s nothing new to attract their attention. These are the same people who will send me a text or an e-mail and then wonder why I don’t get right back to them, even if the text or e-mail was trivial in nature. Well, that’s probably because I don’t check my phone every two minutes. In fact, I can actually go (gasp) hours without even giving it a second thought.
Oh, the horror!!
Call me weird (it certainly wouldn’t be the first time) but I don’t see why I should be checking my phone every two minutes. After all, that’s like being at work or being on call 24 hours a day. I wouldn’t want to constantly be on call without a phone; why should I do it with a phone? There are times when you just need to separate yourself from whatever or whomever. You need to allow your brain to detach and de-tangle, and that doesn’t happen when you’re checking your phone every two minutes.
I can’t say I was surprised when I saw that statistic; we seem to live in a world where there’s too much information and not enough time to process it. And before you go thinking I’m a technological Luddite or something, be aware of the fact that I use technology just as much or more than the average person. I just don’t feel this...compulsion to use it every single second I’m awake. I’m fine with leaving my phone at home when I go to the beach or to leave it in another room when I’m spending time with loved ones. After all, what’s more important in the scheme of things, especially for your mental health--a walk on the beach, or a text message you really don’t need at that moment?
Now can you see why that survey was probably quite accurate?
So the next time you see someone in a restaurant or a store or even (heaven forbid) in a movie theater checking their phone every few minutes, make sure you don’t say “boo” around them. After all, they’re probably anxious enough as it is.
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Speaking of ways to remain calm, I'm trying to stay that way while awaiting the arrival of these--
Hopefully, this weekend. If they finally DO pop out, you know how I'll be spending a lot of my time the next few days, right?
8-)



